You Are a Badass – A Friendly Guide to Becoming Your Boldest Self

By Jen Sincero

Imagine living a life where you’re confident, intentional, and not held back by fear, doubt, or other people’s opinions. “You Are a Badass” is a bold, humorous, and deeply honest book that encourages readers to wake up from their “Big Snooze” and finally start living with purpose.

I’m not here to hype you up with empty motivation. I’m here to gently explain the book’s wisdom in a way that makes you think, reflect, and—most importantly—act. Let’s begin.

📚 Chapter-Wise Summary

Part 1: How You Got This Way

My Subconscious Made Me Do It – You’re a product of beliefs you didn’t choose, but you can rewire them.
The G-Word – Embracing spiritual energy (call it Source, Universe, God) is key to transforming your life.
Present as a Pigeon – Peace and power lie in the present moment, not in overthinking the past or future.
The Big Snooze – Your ego resists change, but growth means waking up to your potential.
Self-Perception Is a Zoo – The way you see yourself shapes everything; it’s time to see your greatness.

Part 2: How to Embrace Your Inner Badass
6. Love the One You Is – Self-love is foundational to success, joy, and resilience.
7. I Know You Are but What Am I? – People’s opinions of you are about them, not you.
8. What Are You Doing Here? – Discover your purpose by tuning into what makes you come alive.
9. Loincloth Man – Embrace discomfort and risk if you want a life of bold adventure.

Part 3: How to Tap Into the Motherlode
10. Meditation 101 – Quieting your mind connects you with Source and infinite clarity.
11. Your Brain Is Your Bitch – Train your thoughts to work for you, not against you.
12. Lead with Your Crotch – Passion is your compass; let it guide your decisions.
13. Give and Let Give – Learn to receive, not just give. Abundance flows both ways.
14. Gratitude: The Gateway Drug to Awesomeness – Gratitude magnetizes joy and opportunity.
15. Forgive or Fester – Resentment poisons your life; forgiveness sets you free.
16. Loosen Your Bone, Wilma – Stop trying to control everything. Let go and trust the flow.

Part 4: How to Get Over Your B.S. Already
17. It’s So Easy Once You Figure Out It Isn’t Hard – Beliefs make things hard or easy. Shift them.
18. Procrastination, Perfection, and a Polish Beer Garden – Perfectionism is fear in disguise.
19. The Drama of Overwhelm – You’re not too busy—you’re just distracted or afraid.
20. Fear Is for Suckers – Fear is fake. Act despite it.
21. Millions of Mirrors – Your reality reflects your inner world.
22. The Sweet Life – You’re worthy of joy—start living like it.

Part 5: How to Kick Some Ass
23. The Almighty Decision – Real change begins when you decide to change, not just wish.
24. Money, Your New Best Friend – Wealth is not evil; your relationship with it matters.
25. Remember to Surrender – Align effort with faith. Let the Universe help.
26. Doing vs. Spewing – Talk less, act more.
27. Beam Me Up, Scotty – Connect with your higher self daily.

1. Your Subconscious Is the Real Boss

From ages 0–7, your brain absorbs beliefs without filter. If you grew up hearing “money is evil,” you might unconsciously sabotage your success. Changing your life means digging deep and rewriting those beliefs.

💡 Tutor tip: Start journaling the beliefs you heard about love, money, success, and yourself. Identify which ones no longer serve you.

2. The Universe Has Your Back

You don’t have to figure everything out alone. There’s a universal energy—call it God, Spirit, Universe—that supports your growth. When you align with it (through meditation, gratitude, or faith), doors open.

3. Self-Love Is Not Optional

If you don’t love yourself, you’ll settle for crumbs—whether in work, relationships, or dreams. Loving yourself means treating yourself like someone you deeply care about.

✅ Say kind things to yourself
✅ Take care of your body and mind
✅ Forgive your past
✅ Set boundaries

4. Fear Lies—Action Breaks the Spell

Fear tells you you’re not ready, smart enough, or safe. But fear is just the ego’s way of keeping you “comfortable.” The truth? Everything you want is on the other side of doing the thing you’re scared of.

Tutor truth: Courage doesn’t mean no fear. It means doing it despite fear.

5. Gratitude Is Your Superpower

Want more success? Start with gratitude. It tunes your energy to receive more of what you already have. Gratitude is like watering a plant—you feed what you focus on.

Try this: Write 3 things you’re grateful for every night before bed.

6. Decide. Don’t Just Wish.

Sincero is clear: change starts with a decision. Not a half-hearted “maybe someday,” but a “whatever it takes” decision. That’s when magic begins.

7. Money Mindset Shapes Reality

If you believe money is evil or hard to earn, it will always run from you. Change your story: Money is a tool. Money helps good people do great things.

Ask: What’s your money story? Rewrite it with empowerment.

Practical Exercises to Try

Belief Journal: Write down your limiting beliefs. Rewrite them into empowering truths.
Meditate Daily (5 mins): Focus on your breath. Repeat affirmations like “I am powerful. I am supported.”
Act Despite Fear: Make a list of 3 scary-but-aligned actions. Take one today.
Mirror Talk: Look into your eyes and say “I love you. You are enough.”
Celebrate Small Wins: No victory is too small. Momentum builds with gratitude.

The Main Takeaways

You are more powerful than you think.
Your thoughts shape your life.
Beliefs can be changed—and must be, if you want different results.
Self-love, spirituality, and action are your tools.
Decide to live intentionally. Don’t wait for permission.

Final Message from Your Tutor

If you’ve read this far, I want you to pause—and appreciate yourself. It means you care. It means you’re ready. You might feel uncertain or unqualified, but here’s what I want you to remember:

You are a badass. You were always a badass. You just needed the tools to remember.

Start small. Think big. Act daily. The Universe is cheering for you—and so am I.